“If there is a solution to a problem, there is no need to worry. And if there is no solution, there is no need to worry.”
– Dalai Lama
We have never been, nor will we ever be in control of anything…ever. Wrapping your head around that fact will give you the confidence to manage whatever conflicts you are currently facing. You’ll gain the courage to run directly towards your opposition. Once you stop living in fear, you’ll begin to live authentically and discover your true life’s purpose. You’ll become clear and present, you’ll understand and accept your limits or boundaries, and you’ll develop compassion for yourself and for the things of this world.
Fear is an interpretation of our fight-or-flight survival mechanism. We are naturally scared of the things we can’t control. If we surrender ourselves, though, to the idea that we can’t actually control anything, and then we confront the thing that is causing the anxiety, then our fear evaporates and we find freedom.
The training exercise is to face your fears. Don’t get me wrong, fear isn’t all bad. We have fear as a survival mechanism, and it keeps us alive. Fear of heights will keep you from getting too close to the edge of a cliff. A fear of snakes will keep you from getting bitten and poisoned!
Sometimes, though, we have controlled and safe environments that allow us the opportunity to experience something seemingly dangerous. A half wall or plexiglass window lets you look over the edge of the cliff without falling off. A locked terrarium in a reptile store allows you to come face to face with that poisonous snake and see that they’re just another animal.
So why not go face some of your silly phobias that limit you from living life to the fullest? The experience itself will obviously be unpleasant, and maybe even a bit traumatic. But facing your fear in a controlled environment allows you to really study why this thing frightens you, and you’ll get that much closer to overcoming that fear. The best part, though, is how empowered you’ll feel after the experience. You’ll catch a glimpse of what you’re really made of.
In the comments section, tell us about your daring encounter. Post the url if you have it on video! Don’t forget to write a Joy Journal entry tonight to celebrate yourself!